how to get stepson to take responsibility for dog

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    My partner’s son is nearly 13 and for months he went on about getting a dog. Eventually we agreed and adopted one from a rescue centre on the proviso he would walk and clear up after him. It lasted about 3 months and now my stepson won’t lift a finger for the dog. I know as parents and a family, the dog is our responsibility too, but I really want my stepson to know the responsibilities of owning a pet. He can’t just ‘get bored’ and not bother. I’ve thought about banning his mobile or ipad until dog duties are complete but would need his dad to back me up on it. He works long hours and isn’t always round so this would end up in a huge argument. Kids eh?!

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    Jane Monroe
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    I would do just that! Take away his privileges until he learns some responsibility. It is difficult if it’s a stepson but nevertheless, if he lives with you and his father then he should be disciplined in the same way as you would discipline your own. It’s all to easy these days for kid’s to get what they want, they have to learn responsibility from an early age and respect people and animals a like. I bet that is why half the animals end up back in rescue centres as the kids just get bored with them!

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    Yes you’re right, he needs to learn. I feel bad as I get the ‘you’re not my mum’ line now and then, but I need to stick to my guns x

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    Your partner really needs to back you up so you’re both a united front. If your stepson thinks his dad isn’t fully on your side he will probably pay no attention to you. In the long-run it will do him good to take responsibility. With my eldest, the threat of stopping the wifi or taking her iPad usually involves tears but works in the end! x

    #39172

    Thanks, I’m going to have a word with my partner and tell him he must back me up on this!! I’ve had to clean god knows how many piles of shite out the garden this week and it’s driving me mad!!!

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    Carly C
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    Let us know how you get on! Your partner really needs to back you up. Hopefully if your stepson see a united front, he’ll get the message xx

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    Jane Monroe
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    I agree with all the comments on here, your partner should back you up and take more responsibility for his son. It’s not fair on you if all the discipline is left to you because he works long hours. If he spins you the line ‘you are not my mum’ I would phone his Dad and get him to speak to him on the phone! Even if he is not around, there are always ways of getting Dad involved and to back you up. You need support too on all issues that involve stepchildren. Good luck x

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