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Joint Mortgage after Separation and Divorce

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Sorting out your joint mortgage after separation or divorce can be tricky. Sadly, around 50% of marriages now end in divorce and as well as the heartache of a relationship breakdown, if you own your home or have a mortgage on it, as well as the upset of possibly leaving the family home, you face the added stress of deciding how to split what is likely to be your biggest asset. These occurrences can become very complicated and each case will be different depending on a couple’s situation, but as they are becoming more common, the information regarding your potential options is more readily available.

You’re both responsible for a joint mortgage

If you have a mortgage on a property, when a couple separates it can often be difficult to keep up payments. One party may move out of the family home and stop paying, using the money to pay for rent on another property, leaving the person living in the home unable to pay the monthly costs by themselves. When you take out a mortgage together you are both responsible for the payments and liable for the debt for the entire duration, not just for when you are living in the property. If one of you refuses to pay the mortgage resulting in late or no payments, it will affect both of your credit history and can impact on your ability to get credit or a mortgage on another property. It’s also worth noting that threatening to keep up payments can sometimes have an adverse effect if your divorce has to go through court at a later stage.

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Contact your lender

You should contact your lender as soon as you have separated so they are aware. If you and your ex can continue to keep up payments on the mortgage you should, but if you are struggling, your lender may be able to offer some respite such as a payment break in the initial stages until a more permanent solution can be sought. These situations are not new to banks so they can be sympathetic to your circumstances and as long as they are aware of your financial situation, they can make allowances or offer help and advice. Failing to notify them and miss payments will do you or your ex no favours, so as much as you may want to bury your head in the sand, don’t!

How to move forward

Work out how you want your future to progress and discuss the options with your ex. The easiest way to resolve the situation is by selling the property, paying off any debt and splitting any profit. Any disputes over profit or assets within the property can be resolved by either you and your ex or via the courts. This way you can get a clean break and be free to move forward. However, this might not always be possible. If you have children or one of you wants to keep the house, you may be able to transfer the mortgage into one name and buy the other party out of their share of equity. This can bring up more complex challenges though.

Lenders have no obligation to remove names or add names to mortgages and you will firstly need to prove you can afford the mortgage payments on your own. If the property has built up any equity, you would also need to find the funds to pay your ex their share which may mean taking out additional loans or further lending against the property, for which you would need to prove you can afford and the lender would have to accept. You may also need to get the property valued in order to assess the worth and therefore equity within it. Again, if there is any dispute over the value of the home or the equity, this may have to be dealt with in court.

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If you are tied into a fixed term mortgage or don’t have long left on it, providing you and your ex are on good terms, you could continue to both pay the mortgage until either the fixed term was up or until the mortgage was paid and you both agree how to split the equity. If you decide to do this, you should be aware that you wouldn’t be able to take out a mortgage on another property and you should consider if you can afford the repayments on the mortgage as well as any other property you may live in.

Register your rights

If you separate or divorce yet the home you live in doesn’t have your name on the deed or mortgage, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you aren’t entitled to the property or equity from it. You can register your matrimonial rights via the Land Registry which will stop your partner selling your home without your knowledge. Your home will be considered a joint asset and either party can’t force out the other. The rules are different if your partner owned the home before your marriage so if in doubt, seek legal advice for clarity.

Other options

If your home is in negative equity, talk to your lender and discuss the options available. It may be that you both continue to pay the mortgage or that you sell up and take a portion of the debt outstanding. This can get a little trickier so you may want to seek legal advice or advice from various charities who can specialise in these situations, especially when children are involved as parents should look to come to a decision that impacts as little as possible on the children.

Even when cases are resolved through the courts, it’s rarely an even split and costs can be considerable. Courts will take into consideration the needs of the children and the parents’ financial circumstances when coming to decisions over property. It might not be an easy process and emotions are bound to run high, but it’s a situation many couples find themselves in and will eventually move forward from.



25 Responses to “Joint Mortgage after Separation and Divorce”

  1. paul

    My wife and I are separated. We have joint mortgages on properties 1 in England and 1 in Spain. I live in the house in England with my grandson and pay all the mortgage and bills of which I have no qualms in doing The Spanish property is in joint names and remains vacant for a long part of the year. I still allow my wife to go on holiday to the property if she wants. I have been paying all the mortgage and bills(insurance, water, electricity, council tax) on the property for 8 months but feel my wife! should be at least contributing something. The property is in negative equity. What can I do ? l

    • Richie

      I recently separated from my long term partner, to whom i have a 2 year old daughter. We have a joint mortgage on our property, and I believe the only way forward is to sell the house so we can get on with our lives. I have rented a property so I can have access to my daughter so I now have the expense of that. My ex wants to stay in the “family” home, but realistically cannot afford it. i am covering the mortgage and still many of the bills for that property. I’ve taken a loan from my parents to cover costs in the interim until i have the house sold. I feel because i left I’m being taken a loan of by my ex.

      II am paying maintenance for my daughter too, which i don’t begrudge but I do begrudge the other expenses I’m covering.

      Any suggestions?

        • richard

          Bit harsh….hes the one paying everyhing and keeping her afloat yet he has to man up and stop complaining…this is clearly a womens response. Put the boot on her foot and see the response she gets…would be very different then. Guys typically have to leave the family home…pay out for a whole new home as they leave wi nothin…pay a lot towards the previous one…pay maintenance…then get the kids all wknd so she can go out and party…..and get nothing in return but moanin….but yea….lets man up n take it…

          • Mick

            You are so right Richard.
            I have my boy most weekends which I love
            but all the while my ex is loving it because she gets to go out and have fun.
            I kept saying to her that I’m being punished because SHE ended it.
            Surely it should be other way round.
            Woman are EVIL

        • samantha

          Not Really Sandrine, why would he not think of his future?? clearly he is thinking about his child did you not read his statement of what he is doing to make sure his little girl is looked after which is a damn site more then most men. What make me laugh is woman get pregnant who probably haven’t achieved too much defiantly not enough to support a baby and when things go tits up with there partner then all of a sudden the man is expected to spend the rest of his life supporting his x’s life style.
          I hope you sold the house got your money so you can look after yourself as well as your daughter, £40.00 a week is what a guy is expected to pay by the government, I’m not saying that’s enough but what I am saying is I’ve worked since the age of 15 and the past 10 years I have worked my all hours that god sends so when I have a baby which will be this year at 30!! I will not need a man to support me if all goes wrong. I can look after myself and my baby. Men are not meant to be your safety net or bank account make sure your ready to support your family or expect to get the life you’ve created if you don’t get your happy ever after.

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  5. R d

    I had 8 years of a fixed rate mortgage when u divorce do u have to pay to get out of that fixed rate. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

  6. Gordon Purdue

    I owned a home jointly with my ex wife in 2014/2015. We split up in 2014 and she decided to move back to Vancouver. My daughter stayed on with me and I kept up the house payments until it sold 8 months later. My ex offered no money to help with the $2800 per month mortgauge. Can I go after her for not paying?

  7. Kal

    I am looking to separate from my partner but we have a mortgage in joint names. I am happy to continue paying towards it but want to buy another property so that my son has a stable home. Am I able to get a 2nd mortgage and move it? I don’t want to make the decision of having a divorce just yet. A separation will give me time and space to think.

  8. Lisa Candella

    How about a joint mortgage is held by my mother-in-law and during our separation my husband hasn’t bee paying it and his getting the house is part of the negotiation but during the marriage I paid it from my income and my husband doesn’t work

  9. Sam

    My new partner is divorced but is still on his ex’s mortgage due to them having a daughter. However I want us to buy our own home. Is this possible?

  10. Logan

    My spouse was paying mortgage with me . He wants seperation. He is living separately.
    I want to pay the full mortgage. Will I be able to deduct that portion of my spouse mortgage from the sale of home?

  11. Raihan

    I have joint mortgage with my brother on 2 properties I have no dealings with them and receive no money from them he won’t sell or buy. He doesn’t pay the mortgages on time which is effecting my credit. What can I do to stop it?

  12. Andrea

    I left my abusive husband two years ago. The divorce is finalised and we jointly own the family home. I have been covering the mortgage and bills in full and he does not even pay the minimum child maintenance. This is not my issue though. He is trying to bully me into selling the house so he can have his share, the only problem is the mortgage company will not allow me to take on the mortgage myself because I do not earn enough, even though I have managed to cover it all this time without any late or under payments since the split. My daughter suffers with sensory processing disorder and needs the stability of her home, so I am afraid he will force the sale and my daughter will be forced to go through the upheaval of losing her home. I could live anywhere and hold no particular attachment to the house, but for my daughters sake I want to remain in what is familiar for her. He seems very confident he will take it and I am so scared. What grounds could he force the sale of he hasn’t been paying the mortgage?

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  15. Mick

    My wife and I separated in December 2015.
    I moved out and am currently renting a room.
    I have two kids 17 and 9 and give my wife £700 per month
    towards our joint mortgage and for the kids.
    I currently pay £400 per month rent.
    I also have loans which I pay even though I got them with my wife.
    My wife can’t afford to buy me out and even if she could she can’t
    afford the mortgage and bills on her own.
    I need to move forward and move on.
    I hate paying rent as it’s dead money.
    Ideally I would like to get a mortgage by myself but then I wont
    be able to pay money I give to my wife which puts her and my kids up the creek which I will not do.
    We are in closing stages of divorce with no chance of getting back
    together as she has already got a boyfriend.
    What are my options apart from continuing doing what I am at the moment?

  16. Sandra

    I am divorced and have a mortgage which is in joint names with my ex. We have been divorced 2 years and he will not sort the finances. I have spent any money I had trying to contact him to sort the finaces and now have no money at all so I cannot afford a solicitor or to go to court. If the mortgage payments go up I will not be able to afford them, and the mortgage company have said they can put me on a better plan if my ex agees but again he will not answer the calls or letters. He is paying nothing towards the children, not working or claimimg benefits (could be working cash in hand) so he is on a nil assessment for child maintenance. But he can afford holidays abroad and to run a posh expensive car smoke and go out. Any advice would be appreciated.

  17. Paul harland

    I’ve been separated for the past 3 year’s now I still live in the house with a joint morgage I pay all the bills what are my rights

  18. Lela

    I need help..my boyfriend is still married due to a shared mortgage to his wife. We have plans to marry next year and he divorce her, but still keep his name on the mortgage because of all the money still owed on the home also his 23 year old son and step daughter who just had a baby also stay there. I am concerned about marrying him because we share a newborn and I feel that as my husband he shouldn’t own property with another women, especially his e to be ex wife..please help me

  19. Sally long

    My husband and his ex wife divorced in 2011and the judge granted a court order where she was to release him from the mortgage but he would still have a 35% share for the equity once the youngest child reached the age of 18 or if she remarried. We recently went to get further borrowing on our own mortgage but we’re declined, after looking st our credit it appears he is still named on the ex marital mortgage and the lender has confirmed they would Perdue him if she failed to make the mortgage payment. Does this mean as it stand he would be entitled to 50% rather than 35% as she hasn’t got him released from the mortgage and now this is impacting us doing any further borrowing, also how can we enforce this court order without spending money we don’t have to take her to court yet again? She has already broken the contact order as she believes she is above the law

  20. tina

    I have left my husband due to abuse ,his parents bought a house 14 years ago for us to live in with our 3 kids , my ex is on the mortgage and his parents i am not on it ,me and my ex was paying the mortgage would i be intitled to any of the money they get for it , i have been working for years to help pay for mortgage .


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