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What happens if your child doesnt like their teacher


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Studies show that a child’s relationship with their teacher has a major impact on a child’s ability to learn, and if your child reacts well to his or her teacher, they are more likely to want to learn and will ultimately achieve higher grades. We all remember a favourite teacher who made lessons fun, but it is also likely that we remember a teacher that sticks in our minds for all the wrong reasons. You may also recall how your attitude to this teacher affected your entire experience of school. Now you are the parent, you obviously want the best for your child, and the dream would be that they have a positive experience with all their teachers, but what happens if your child doesnt like their teacher?

What’s The Problem?

If your child comes home stating that they hate a particular teacher, get to the root of the problem as soon as possible. If the child is quite young, the problem could quite simply be that they are getting used to a different authority figure in their life, and they are uncomfortable with accepting being told what to do by someone other than their parents. Do listen to your child and let them know that you are taking their concerns seriously, and do not just dismiss what they say as this may result in them being reluctant to tell you about any worries in the future. Reassure your child that their teacher may appear strict, but that they are this way with all children, not just them. Explain that this teacher just wants to establish some ground rules so that all the children in the class can achieve their potential.

Talk to the Teacher

child doesn't like teacherIf the problem persists, arrange a meeting with the teacher to discuss your concerns. Once you meet the teacher in person, you may be able to gauge what kind of person they are. Talk openly about the problem, but do not lay blame and make sure you are aware of all the facts before suggesting where the problems lie. Communication is the key to teacher – parent relations and each giving insight into the school and home lives of the child can help with discovering the root of your child’s anguish. You may decide to hold two meetings, first with just the teacher and then with your child present also. If your child does attend, put their mind at ease and let them know the meeting is for their benefit and that they are not in any trouble. The more comfortable your child feels, the more willing they will be to express themselves freely.

Going Higher

If you discover that the meeting with the teacher has not helped matters, ask for a meeting with the teacher and Head-Teacher. Again, communicate your concerns and relay to the Head-Teacher how things have not progressed since the initial meeting. Be persistent but not aggressive as this will only exacerbate the situation.

One Problem – Many Different Answers

There are numerous things that can cause a child to be unhappy at school, so be prepared to delve deep. The problem could stem from a throwaway comment made by a teacher that may have unintentionally hurt the child’s feelings, or it could be the teacher’s teaching style. Teaching a classroom full of very different children is a difficult task, and sometimes methods that appeal to one student will not appeal to another. Yet, as long as you the parent, and the school, keep the channels of communication open, it should be easier to discover a solution to any problems that arise.



About Denise Morgan

About Denise Morgan

Denise has five years' experience writing for various web-based companies. During this time she has also contributed to magazine articles and brochures. In addition to writing, Denise is a gigging singer/songwriter and is proud to have featured on the first series of BBC One's The Voice UK, having been selected by the great Sir Tom Jones. Denise is mother to the most talented and ridiculously intelligent two year old that has ever been and ever will be (until she creates another one that is). This kind of hyperbole is restricted only to her progeny and is not a reflection of her usual writing styles... Denise and her son live in Manchester along with their five cats - yes that's right, five.

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