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Are you curious or just plain nosy

Are you curious or just plain nosy

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Some people are naturally curious while others disguise nosiness as inquisitiveness. On the surface there may not seem to be much difference. In fact, even dictionary definitions suggest a bit of an overlap. But whether a person is curious or downright nosy can have a real effect on the way others react and warm to them.

What’s the difference?

Someone who is curious about another person tends to like that individual and wants to get to know them better. A curious person will long to understand something, whereas nosy people probably just want all the juicy details and will make their own mind up about the reasons behind something.

Curious people will often find that a relationship will form in which both parties gain the trust of the other person and everyone feels comfortable with the level of intimacy shared. However, nosy people have a tendency to ask inappropriate questions and make the other person feel awkward, which doesn’t help in the forming of friendships. In most cases the difference between being curious and being nosy involves a genuine interest in a person, versus trying to pry information out of them, perhaps to gossip or judge. Nosiness usually involves trying to be privy to something that isn’t really any of your business.

Are you curious or just plain nosy

How can I tell whether I’m curious or nosy?

Nobody likes to be called nosy, largely because the word has negative connotations of interfering and gossiping. If you suspect you might come across as being nosy rather than curious, you might want to change the way you interact with people.

Firstly you need to consider your reasons for taking an interest in someone else’s life. Do you genuinely care about that person or do you just want to know what’s going on? If information were shared with you, would you keep it to yourself or reveal it to others? If the answer to both questions is the latter option, then I’m sorry but you probably do come across as being nosy.

How to avoid being nosy

Nosiness can be a difficult habit to curb, especially if it is ingrained in your psyche. However, you can learn to stop being overly intrusive by bearing a few things in mind. Before posing questions, ask yourself if you’d be happy if someone else asked the same of you. Be aware that everyone has different boundaries and what may seem a reasonable question to some is deemed entirely inappropriate for others. Rather than going in heavy handed, ask whether someone would like to talk about an issue. If they do then great but if not, leave it there and change the subject. Avoiding nosiness is just a case of respecting other people’s privacy.

There can be a very fine line between being curious and just plain nosy and everyone has nosy moments now and again. The important thing is to learn not to be intrusive. That means not asking personal questions and letting people live their own lives in private.











About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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