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Arguing with your teenage daughter about clothes?

Are you always arguing with your teenage daughter about clothes

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You’re not wearing that!

Are you always arguing with your teenage daughter about clothes; either lack of or style of? Ask any parent who has made it through the teenage years and you’ll be left in no doubt that fashion can be a huge source of conflict.  Whether she has a pierced tongue and dyed blue hair or dresses exactly the way her friends do to fit in, as a parent you will probably have an opinion on how your child looks.  Don’t despair however, there are ways you can influence your teenager’s sense of style without an outright ban on certain items.  Understanding why your child chooses to dress the way she does is important when it comes to avoiding arguments.


One day you notice she’s wearing more eyeliner than usual, next it’s the Dr Marten boots that are worn with everything then a stud appears in her nose and the final straw is the dramatic hue of bubblegum pink that has replaced the mousey-brown shade her hair used to be.  Clothing and hairstyles are primary means of self-expression.  Even if you’re not a fan, be proud you’ve brought your child up to be self-confident enough to rock her own look.  While kids are developing their own image it is understandable that they take it a bit far now and again.  Experimenting is all part of growing up, discovering who you are and what suits you. Are you always arguing with your teenage daughter about clothes

In with the in-crowd

While some kids want to rebel or stand out, others crave approval and want to fit in with their peers.  One of the easiest ways for them to do this is through fashion.  You might find it strange that your child and her friends all go around looking the same but for them it’s perfectly natural.  After all, they have the same posters up on their bedroom walls so why should their taste in clothing be different? Remember that your teenager will eventually grow out of this and learn to take key on-trend items and incorporate them into her own style, rather than wearing the same as everyone else from head to toe.


This is possibly the scariest fashion-related scenario for parents of girls.  They see a cute skirt with a nice top and funky shoes, whereas you see too much leg and a bare midriff tottering around on a pair of stilettos.  Rather than shouting, “You’re not going out wearing that!” your daughter may be more likely to listen if you’re a bit subtler in your response.

Look through magazines together and point out that the models that look the best are the ones that adopt the less is more approach when it comes to exposing flesh.  It’s fine to show a little skin on top if you’re wearing jeans or thick tights.  Likewise, it’s ok to wear a (reasonably) short skirt if it’s teamed with a more modest top. Don’t criticize her taste in clothing – tell her each item is fabulous, just not together.  If you go about it in the right way, then hopefully your daughter will take your concerns on board.

As adults, we are usually quite particular about our own sense of style, the clothes that we are happy to be seen wearing and what we feel comfortable in.  Teenagers are no different.

You were young once too!

Before you start to worry that your youngster will forever be a fashion faux-pas disaster, dig out your old photos – I challenge you not to cringe at some of the outfits you used to wear!  Rest assured that once your teenager has found her own style she’ll learn what works (or doesn’t) for her – just like you did.



About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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