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Being a happy and successful single parent

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Being a single parent is a guaranteed challenge and whether you’ve just happened to find yourself solo parenting or if it was a conscious decision, sometimes the challenge is made harder by perceptions of the outside world. Comments like, “It must be so hard” or “Oh I’m sad for you that’s awful”, just don’t help. An important factor in being a happy and successful single parent is a real sense of pride in your role, so here’s some important reasons for you to be a proud single parent.

Plenty of cuddles

We’ve put this one first because lets face it, we all love affection from our kids and the great thing is, its all for you. When you’re struggling with sleep depravation because of an upset tummy or tooth ache, remember all the love that’s to come is just for you.

The Bonds are very strong

If it’s just you and your child or children, it usually means a very close relationship. Your off-spring only have you to talk to and depend on, which develops a strong bond of trust. Appreciate this dynamic, it isn’t easy to always be the one person that your child turns to, but they do it because they look up to you and respect you.

It’s all up to you

One of the joys of being a single parent is not having a partner telling you how to parent. This means you get to instill your beliefs and values in your children without disruption. Whether it’s right or wrong, you have 100 percent responsibility and that is something to be proud of. You are the reason for your child’s success. Every achievement, milestone and accomplishment is a result of your love and guidance.

You get to see it all

single parentsA definite pro of solo parenting is you get to witness most memorable moments of your child’s life. Parties, sports activities, plays, awards. From first step to first date, you get to see most of it, which may not have been the case had you shared the parenting responsibility with another. You should feel honored to be in the position of number one person your child wants to be there.

You’re a master juggler

Driving to swimming practice whilst helping your eldest with their spelling, all to the soundtrack of “The wheels of the bus”. Sound familiar? As a single parent you have developed the skill of spinning more plates than a circus performer and all in the name of love. You’re sublime.

There’s fun to be had

Taxi driver, personal shopper, counsellor. The defined roles you can slip into when your one half of a parenting team, can mean that you only get to do the dull stuff. Being a single parent means you also get to have lots of fun with your child. You can be movie partner, ice cream sharer and kite flyer too.

No more fighting

If you used to be with a partner that meant nightly shouting matches were the norm, standing strong and alone means you’ve given your kids peace. No more fighting and no more tears means you’ve created a safe and secure haven for your child.And that’s a great and noble thing.

Challenges turn into accomplishments

Eleanor Roosevelt said: “We gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” There are so many parenting challenges that one just can’t prepare for, but every time you face something new, you’re growing which benefits both you and your child.

Sacrifice for the one you love

It’s should always give you a huge amount of pride knowing that you are constantly working for the higher good. For every yoga class cancelled or glass of wine with a friend put on hold, for every time you put your child first, you are assisting them along their life journey and teaching them all they need to know. Hold your head high because you are amazing!

 

 

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About Libby Taylor

"Libby is an experienced writer of radio and internet copy. A practicing buddhist for over 15 years, and a lover of good food, fashion and self help books, Libby loves to write about everything and anything, always with the intention of entertainment and surprise!"

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