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Believe In Yourself

Believe In Yourself

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Self-belief is one to the most powerful personal development tools we possess. Yet it can be an elusive beast and tricky to hold onto when life gets tough and it seems like the world is against you. When I was growing up my Mum had various motivational and positive mantras pinned up on the fridge. As a naturally optimistic soul, these phrases resonated with me; many have remained embedded in my brain. When times are hard I dust them off and chew them over. It helps to renew my self-belief . But why is it so important?

The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

When you embark on a task or project your attitude can have a surprising effect on your chances of success. If you believe you have a chance of success, your response to any challenges that arise comes from a place of positivity; this is often half the battle. And every time you do succeed, your self-belief is strengthened – you were right, that makes believing next time all the easier.

Conversely, if you engage in negative self-talk that places doubts and concerns in your mind, you are creating additional hurdles for you to overcome before you even get started. You make your job doubly difficult and the likelihood of failure increases as a result. If things then don’t go well your brain says ‘Aha! I knew it!’, reinforcing all your self-doubts and making it more likely you will lack belief in yourself in the future.

You see, the more you believe in yourself, the easier it gets. And on the occasions where your self-belief appears to be unfounded you will find it easier to shrug it off.

Attitude Counts

Your attitude counts so much, it informs the way you approach things and the way in which you respond when challenges arise.

Those with self-belief seek a way around obstacles – ‘If I try this I can…’

Those who lack self-belief immediately view obstacles as insurmountable – ‘I’ll never get past that because…’

If you believe you are defeated, then chances are you will be. Think of the tennis player who is several games down – he has a choice to consider each new game as an opportunity to turn his fortunes around, or as a confirmation of his imminent defeat. With a positive outlook he may still lose, but will feel satisfied that at least he tried.

You Can’t Lose with Positivity

Believe In YourselfWhen you fail with a positive attitude you are still winning. This is because deep down we all know we’ve tried our best – and whatever the outcome, that knowledge gives us power. If we don’t try and then we fail there is a natural tendency to blame ourselves, resulting in a poor self-image. If we try and fail, we may still feel down, but the knowledge we gave it our best shot feels good. It’s a win: win on the self-esteem front.

Do you Want to Fail?

No one can be successful all the time. But those who take a negative view of the world as a default response, are setting themselves up for failure. It may feel safe to look for reasons not to do something, but in adopting that approach you will forever miss the potential to experience success.

If you look at successful people, they have a common belief that allows them to work positively with whatever life throws at them, instead of using the obstacles as a reason to fail. Success comes from within, only you can change your attitude. Goodness knows it’s not always easy. In fact, most of the time being positive can be hard work, often with little reward. But when the good stuff happens the buzz from knowing it’s from your own efforts is immense.

Change your Mind

The first step to believing in yourself is trusting that whatever happens, you will be okay. Hoping for success and then failing is a setback, not the end of the world. In many cases it’s also an opportunity to learn. If you never take a risk you will never know what’s possible in your life. Every time you find yourself creating reasons not to do something, ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen? Most of the time the answer is nothing too extreme. Then ask yourself what you stand to gain if you happen to succeed. And be prepared to give it a try.

Believe in yourself, and anything is possible. Honest.




About Cally Worden

About Cally Worden

Seasoned freelance writer Cally Worden lives with her family and dog in a quiet corner of rural France. A love of the outdoors, and a fascination with her children's ability to view life with fresh eyes provide the inspiration for much of her work. Cally writes regularly for various websites and UK print publications on subjects as diverse as parenting, travel, lifestyle, and business, and anything that makes her smile.

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