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Does age matter in a relationship

Does age matter in a relationship

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Over the past few decades, the trend is for people to end up with a partner who is around their own age, but does age matter in a relationship? However, love knows no bounds as they say and it is by no means uncommon for people to fall in love with someone 10 or 15 years (or more) older or younger than themselves. This is especially true in an era where couples are just as likely to meet online as they are in a pub or nightclub.

Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship and this can be found anywhere, with someone of any age. But before you dive head over heels into a relationship with someone much older or younger than you there are some points you may wish to consider.

Mismatched life experiences

Career, children and travel are all elements that can have a profound affect on new relationships, particularly if one person has done it all already and the other is still looking forward to experiencing these things. That’s not to say these things will ruin a relationship but if you are a 20-something dating an older divorcee with children, it is worth talking early about what you want from life.

Do you want to have children?

If you’re in your 20s and your partner is in his or her 30s then this may not be such an issue as long as you both have a similar time frame in mind. However, if one partner wants children and the other feels they are past that point for whatever reason, it could be a jarring point. On the other hand, a 20-year-old woman looking to settle down and start a family may find that an older man is more likely to be ready to commit than someone her own age.

Generational differences

Does age matter in a relationshipYou may have different views on anything from politics to musical tastes but as long as you respect each other’s opinions, this shouldn’t have a huge detrimental impact on your relationship. Where generational differences may become most obvious is in historical and cultural references. A younger partner may not remember, or even have been born, when events happened that might have shaped the other partner.

Other people’s opinions

Getting together with someone much younger or older may well raise a few eyebrows among family and friends. Strangers might even mistake you for parent and child. However, if you’re confident in your choice of partner then friends and family will soon come to see that you are happy and they should be pleased that you’ve found someone who cherishes you for who you are. Everyone else’s opinion doesn’t matter.


It should go without saying that the gap between a 15-year-old and a 30-year-old is much more significant than that between a 30-year-old and a 45-year-old. Despite being the same number of years, life experience and maturity usually reduces the importance of a large age gap in relationships. It’s never a good decision to get involved with someone much younger than you that isn’t a fully-fledged adult.

Communication, honesty, dedication and effort are vital in making a relationship with a large age gap work. But then how many relationships with partners around the same age turn out well without all these things? As long as both partners are on the same wavelength about their hopes and expectations from life, then age gap relationships can be just as successful as any other.



About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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