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First date do’s and dont’s

First date do's and dont's

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First dates can be nerve-wracking, especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for some time. If you’re ready to get back out there her are some first date dos and don’ts to bear in mind as you look for the perfect partner.


Make yourself comfortable

If you show up wearing uncharacteristically high heels and a tight dress you can hardly sit down in you’re not going to enjoy yourself. Wear something that you feel great in but that is also comfortable. That goes for make up as well as clothes – if you don’t feel like yourself then you’ll be on edge all through the date.

Be yourself

There is no point in going on a date to get to know each other if you’re going to pretend to be someone you’re not. Any lies you tell or exaggerations you make will be discovered at a later point if the date goes well, so start as you mean to go on and build a connection based on trust.

Have some topics of conversation ready

You don’t have to be an expert on current affairs but make sure you have some topics of conversation up your sleeve in case of awkward silences. It could be something as simple as asking about their family or job to discovering their favourite films. If you’ve met online it’s also worth taking another look at their profile so that you can ask questions about things they’ve put on there.


You’re there to have fun so relax and enjoy the date. Whether or not it leads to something more, you can still have a lovely evening in (hopefully!) good company.


Be late

You don’t need to be early but it’s good manners not to show up late. Make sure you know where you’re going and how to get there. If you are running a little late then text your date to let them know that you’re on your way and you’re looking forward to seeing them.

First date do's and dont's

Use your mobile

When you’re out on a date the person you’re with doesn’t want to stare at the top of your head while you update your Facebook status or check in at the restaurant you’re eating at. Switch the phone on silent, leave it in your bag and concentrate on what’s going on around you. Your date will feel much more comfortable knowing that they have your full attention. If you do want to share how the date is going you can always send a quick text to a friend when you nip to the loo.

Expect the man to pay

Tradition implies that the man will usually pay for a first date but in the 21st century it’s more common to either go Dutch or for the person who asked the other out to pay, whether that’s the man or woman. Your date may offer to take care of the bill but don’t expect it.

Talk about previous relationships

While the topic will probably come up at some point in a new relationship, talking about exes is a big no-no on a first date. No matter how recently or badly you’ve been hurt you should keep the details to yourself. First dates are about what might be to come so don’t spend it dwelling on the past.



About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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