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Helping your teenager get over a breakup

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Has their relationship ended and you’re helping your teenager get over a breakup? Well cast your mind back to being a teenager yourself and being in love, totally and utterly in love. Then remember what it felt like when it all ended, it was like the world had stopped spinning, you would never love again, no-one could ever replace them and you were pretty sure you would spend the rest of your life single and alone. Unfortunately, it’s inevitable that when teenagers start dating, they will get their heart broken at some point and as a parent it’s our job to help pick up the pieces.

It’s normalhelping your teenager get over a breakup

When young love comes to a crashing halt, it can be devastating for your child and also place additional stress on the whole family as your teenager deals with the emotional turmoil. They might not understand what went wrong, what they did to cause it and if they will ever get over it. You might not be able to wave a magic wand to make it all better but you can help them deal with their feelings and be there for them when they need it most. Talk to them and tell them that what they’re feeling is normal and they will get over it. Share your own experiences of heartbreak and let them know you’re there for them.

Give them time

You should give them the time and space to mourn the loss of their relationship whether they are thirteen or nineteen. The pain they are feeling is the same regardless of age so don’t trivialise it, instead help them identify their feelings and express their emotions. They may be feeling a vast array of emotions ranging from anger to sadness and confusion. One week they were loved up and starry eyed and the next, it’s all over and they can’t understand why? They should be allowed to release their emotions and cry, scream or punch their pillow if it helps them feel better. You may find it harder to reach through to boys who are less inclined to show their emotions and see crying as a sign of weakness, so let them know you will listen if they need and the emotions they are feeling are to be expected after a relationship ends.

Keep an eye on themhelping your teenager get over a breakup

You should watch out for signs of depression, while sadness is to be expected, if it goes on for a long period of time or you really can’t get through to them at all and are concerned about their mental state, encourage them to see their doctor who can help provide strategies for coping or medication in more serious cases of depression.

Help them see the positive side

After the initial shock of breaking up, help your teen accept their new single status and see it in a positive light. Social media can add to the pain of breakups when you have to declare to the whole world via your news feed or relationship status that you are now ‘SINGLE’! Some teens see this as a sign of failure and they may as well just have ‘loser’ plastered all over their Facebook page, but help them to see it as an opportunity to spend more time with friends, go away with the girls or on a lads holiday or just be free to do what they want and when they want. Your teen will find love again and usually when they least expect, so help them stay positive and learn to love themselves.

Some teens will get over breakups quicker than others and everyone deals with emotional ups and downs in different ways, so be supportive, listen and share your own pearls of wisdom.

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About Rebecca Robinson

After spending the last 8 years juggling life as a mum of two, wife and working full time as a Project Manager for a global telecommunications company, Rebecca Robinson made the decision to follow her love of writing and took the plunge; turning her passion into a full time career. Since becoming a full time writer, Rebecca has worked with various media and copy-writing companies and with the ability to make any topic relevant and interesting to the reader, now contributes to The Working Parent on articles ranging from credit cards to teenage relationships. Ever the optimist, Rebecca's dreams for the future include a house in the country filled with children, dogs and horses in the field!

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