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Puberty: Changes your daughter will go through

puberty: changes your daughter will go through

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Your little girl won’t stay your baby forever and before you know it, she will be starting to hit puberty. It’s really important for parents to speak to their children about the changes they will go through both physically and emotionally and offer them guidance and support through what can be a tough time in their lives.

Talk from a young age

Some mums and daughters are very close and no topic is off limits, where as others might not share that bond and therefore a little extra effort is required to make sure channels of communication are kept open. Even if you are embarrassed about talking about these things, its important you do and that she is prepared; after all, getting your first period can be quite a shock if you don’t know what to expect! Her body will go through several physical changes which may start from as young as 8, with the development of breasts and pubic hair.

Breast developmentpuberty: changes your daughter will go through

Breasts start to grow between the ages of 8 and 13 and will continue through puberty. They will grow at varying rates and breast sizes and shapes are different for everyone. Because breasts continue to grow for many years, a girl with small breasts might suddenly develop a full bust in her late teens. It’s important your daughter knows that breast size is different among everyone and wanting to increase the size of your bust through plastic surgery isn’t always healthy or safe and shouldn’t be considered until breasts have completely stopped growing.

Hair, here there and everywhere!

Hair will start to become darker and thicker on the legs and start to grow in the pubic region and underarms. Girls may become self conscious and want to start shaving their legs and underarms at the first sign of growth. Make sure they know how to do so safely and to read instruction labels carefully on any hair removal products, it might seem like common sense, but hair removal creams and sharp blades can cause injury if not used correctly.


Your daughter will probably go through a growth spurt at this point, growing on average around 3.5 inches per year. Stretch marks on the skin are a common side effect and with increased height comes an increase in weight. Your daughter must know that this weight gain is perfectly natural and is needed to be able to develop into adulthood.

Skin deep

Probably the most unpleasant side effect of puberty is if your child develops acne. The sweat and oil glands that are developing under the skin can lead to pores getting blocked and result in a breakout of spots. It may be the odd spot during certain times in the month or it might be more severe continuous acne. Even though it’s a natural side effect and many of her friends may get it, acne can be very distressing, strip kids of their confidence and sometimes lead to depression. Try out some over the counter treatments first but if there is no improvement, take her to see her GP who will be able to prescribe some stronger medication to help resolve the issue.


One of the biggest milestones in her life will be the start of her periods. You might want to talk to her about them from an early age so it doesn’t come as a big shock. You don’t have to make it a big deal or sit her down for ‘a talk’ but bring it up naturally in conversation so she knows its something she can come to you about. She might ask about sanitary towels and tampons as you’re in the supermarket or tell you about her friends starting their periods.puberty: changes your daughter will go through

Ensure you have plenty of sanitary products in the bathroom and that she knows how to use them. It’s recommended that girls use pads or towels when they first start their periods until they are regular but for PE or swimming this can be a little difficult. Make sure she understands how to use a tampon correctly and understands the dangers of incorrect use. Toxic Shock Syndrome which is linked to tampon usage can be fatal so it’s important she knows all the facts. Have several different brands available and eventually she can chose which she prefers to use. When you come to do the shopping, make sure you pop them on the list or ask her to write down any toiletry products she wants getting for her.

Be there for her

You were once her age too and can probably remember how awkward or embarrassing it may have been. She will be relying on her mum to help her understand these changes so let her know you’re always able to answer any questions and this is a perfectly normal part of growing up!



About Rebecca Robinson

About Rebecca Robinson

After spending the last 8 years juggling life as a mum of two, wife and working full time as a Project Manager for a global telecommunications company, Rebecca Robinson made the decision to follow her love of writing and took the plunge; turning her passion into a full time career. Since becoming a full time writer, Rebecca has worked with various media and copy-writing companies and with the ability to make any topic relevant and interesting to the reader, now contributes to The Working Parent on articles ranging from credit cards to teenage relationships. Ever the optimist, Rebecca's dreams for the future include a house in the country filled with children, dogs and horses in the field!

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