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It is often said that there is no harder job in the world than being a parent, but add the prefix of single to that and the job suddenly becomes a whole lot harder. Once upon a time, being a single parent family had an unshakable stigma attached to the title, with images of maladjusted, badly behaved children popping into the heads of anyone who heard the phrase, single parent. Thankfully the prejudices and wrongful associations are melting away as more and more families consist of lone parents, doing their job successfully.

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If you worry about whether you are a good parent, you are already on your way to being one, because the fact you are concerned and want to be the best you can is the ideal place to start when it comes to parenting alone. All children, whether they live with two parents or one, require positive attention and a secure environment in order to thrive. Studies show that regardless of domestic arrangements, children who have quality time with a parent are more likely to be happy and do better socially and academically.

How do I become the perfect single parent?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we download a list of dos and don’ts that would guarantee our place in the perfect parenting category of life? Unfortunately, this is one manual that does not exist, but there are many things we can do and advice we can take on board to make things a little easier.

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It can be difficult to give your child as much attention as you think they need and being a working single parent family can make it seem an impossible task. However, when you do have time with your child, ensure you listen to them and make the most of any opportunities you have to interact and communicate with your child. This could be during the journey home from school, over dinner or as you are watching a film together. Enjoy time with your children and get involved with games and activities which will deepen the bond you already have. Children thrive on positive communication so ensure they know that you are happy when you are in their company, such as when they return from school. Tactile behaviours can be enormously beneficial, especially to younger children who enjoy receiving hugs and kisses from their adoring parents.

Separated Couples

It can be extremely difficult to remain positive in situations such as separations or divorce, but children are perceptive and will notice if there is any animosity between parents. Reassure your child that your separation is not a reflection of your relationship with them and when possible, and if appropriate encourage contact with the non-resident parent. Many parents find it difficult to maintain a friendship with their ex, but it is important not to purposely bad mouth your child’s father or mother merely because your relationship has ended. Remember, children need routine and positive role models in order to develop into balanced individuals. You also should remember that your happiness is paramount and should you feel it necessary, do seek support from family, friends and professionals. In circumstances where both parents are finding it difficult to resolve issues now they are separated, it may be wise to seek counselling from a group such as Relate.

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The good thing about being a Single Parent is….

There’s a good side? Well, yes, there is. Being a single parent can be a rewarding experience and if your child no longer has contact with their other parent, for whatever reason, you can find positive aspects of parenting alone. Being a single parent forces you to concentrate even more on your child as there is nobody else to share the day to day tasks, but this presents opportunities for you to enjoy moments you may have missed if you had perhaps been reliant on someone else. However, some parents who find themselves isolated from adult company may rely too heavily on their children for emotional support and this is not appropriate, especially for younger children. It is of course essential that children realise that emotions are perfectly normal and if you are upset or fed up it you may wish to explain your feelings at an age-appropriate level, but take care not to unburden your problems on a child in the same manner you would to an adult as this can cause confusion.

 

 

 

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About Denise Morgan

About Denise Morgan

Denise has five years' experience writing for various web-based companies. During this time she has also contributed to magazine articles and brochures. In addition to writing, Denise is a gigging singer/songwriter and is proud to have featured on the first series of BBC One's The Voice UK, having been selected by the great Sir Tom Jones. Denise is mother to the most talented and ridiculously intelligent two year old that has ever been and ever will be (until she creates another one that is). This kind of hyperbole is restricted only to her progeny and is not a reflection of her usual writing styles... Denise and her son live in Manchester along with their five cats - yes that's right, five.

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