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Skills kids need for good behaviour

Skills kids need for good behaviour

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Some kids are labelled as being badly behaved and that’s that. But sometimes children’s challenging behaviour happens because they don’t know how else to react to a situation or they can’t live up to an adult’s expectations of them. If this is the case then there are some skills that can be taught to help encourage good behaviour.

Knowing what is appropriate

Certain types of behaviours may be fine in some situations but entirely inappropriate in others. For example, running around at the park is to be encouraged but in a restaurant it’s deemed naughty. Kids need to be able to tell the difference between situations and decide for themselves what kind of behaviour is okay. Being able to read social situations and act appropriately is something we all need to learn. Not only does it stand kids in good stead for the future, it keeps them from getting into trouble and offending people in the meantime.

Interpersonal skills

The first place children start to pick up interpersonal skills is in the home so it’s important that you set a good example when it comes to things like manners, treating people with respect and conflict resolution. Encouraging children to read body language and use words to express themselves, rather than lashing out, will help them interact well with their peers.


Skills kids need for good behaviourBeing able to see things from someone else’s perspective allows children to form relationships and build on friendships. Empathy is a trait that can help prevent bullying and see kids through a mine of social interactions throughout their lives. An empathic child is less likely to be disruptive or behave badly as she understands how her actions may affect other people.

Handling emotions

A hurt or angry child may take her frustrations out on the nearest person or breakable object, just because she doesn’t know how else to handle her emotions. Kids need to learn that it’s not okay to hurt others because they feel bad or frustrated. As well as learning to control a temper, children need to be able to cope with other feelings. Making sure your child knows that her feelings are important and that you will always be happy to listen to her concerns can go a long way in teaching her to regulate her emotions. Make sure your child understands that she is allowed to feel anything at all, as long as she deals with them properly and doesn’t take her frustrations out on other people.

If you are struggling with your child’s challenging behaviour then things aren’t going to change overnight. After all, it’s difficult to change behaviours that have been ingrained as habit. However, it’s important not to give in. People who don’t learn the skills they need to behave well as children will find life difficult when they venture out on their own as adults.





About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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