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Stop arguing with your teenager

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Are tempers flaring continually and you’re wanting to stop arguing with your teenager? We all know the onset of puberty can turn even the sweetest child into a temperamental, stroppy and argumentative stranger and those teenage years can be some of the most difficult for parents and children to get through together. Some parents might find it difficult to accept their child is growing into an adult and some children may find it difficult to express their feelings in an adult way leading to rows, tempers flaring and arguing with your teenager on a constant basis. But there are ways you can get through this period with as little stress as possible and remember, it won’t last forever!

Rule and boundariesstop arguing with your teenager

Even though your teenager might think they are a grown up, they should still adhere to certain house rules and boundaries put in place. The sooner they know these boundaries the better and as a parent it is your duty to stick to them so there is no confusion. You might want to impose a limit on the amount of friends in the house at once, what time they are expected to be in the house in the evenings, what chores they are expected to do around the house or something as simple as tidying up mess they make.

Respect and rewards

Whatever rules have been set, if your teenager is refusing to adhere to them then ban all friends, confiscate their mobile phone or ground them until they start following the rules. Once they can show you they are mature enough to respect your boundaries, you can then start to give them a little more independence or reward them for the adult attitude towards the rules of the home. If your child can see you are trusting them and treating you fairly, they are more likely to continue that behaviour and this will make for a better relationship between you.

Bedroom wars

Bedrooms can be the cause of many a row in the home with parents tearing their hair out at the mess and the child feeling their domain and private space is being invaded. You may have also noticed that screaming at them to clean their room will rarely result in your child jumping up and grabbing the vacuum, but you can encourage a little cleanliness in other ways.

Stay out of your teenager’s room as much as possible and respect their space but if you do need to go in, give plenty of notice so they can clear away anything they might not want you seeing. You might want to meet them half way on the laundry front, suggest that as long as clothes are put in the laundry bin you will wash them but everyone is responsible for vacuuming and putting clothes away. You can’t expect them to keep their space as immaculate as you would want but if they aren’t keeping to the boundaries, you could consider taking away games consoles or TVs until the room is back to a reasonable state.stop arguing with your teenager

Chores and allowances

You should ensure that everyone in the house keeps communal areas tidy and if they use plates and cutlery, it goes into the dishwasher or is washed straight away. If they have an allowance you might also want to think about giving them money for extra chores around the house. It’s a great way of encouraging them to earn their money whilst keeping the house clean. Teaching them how the dishwasher, washing machine and iron works can also help bring out their independence which will serve them better in adult hood.

Try not to take arguments to heart and understand they may not have developed the communication skills we have as adults and while having doors slammed in your face isn’t pleasant, it won’t last forever and you are not alone!



About Rebecca Robinson

About Rebecca Robinson

After spending the last 8 years juggling life as a mum of two, wife and working full time as a Project Manager for a global telecommunications company, Rebecca Robinson made the decision to follow her love of writing and took the plunge; turning her passion into a full time career. Since becoming a full time writer, Rebecca has worked with various media and copy-writing companies and with the ability to make any topic relevant and interesting to the reader, now contributes to The Working Parent on articles ranging from credit cards to teenage relationships. Ever the optimist, Rebecca's dreams for the future include a house in the country filled with children, dogs and horses in the field!

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