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Tips for taking life a bit less serious

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Life seems to be so demanding for so many of us and from one view it doesn’t seem to show any sign of letting up. With job insecurites, financial pressures and extreme weather conditions there always seems be something distressing and worrying to focus on. In a way, this is exactly the point to become aware of, there are always ‘bad’ things happening, how we respond to them however will determine our quality of life and the way we affect those around us.

Becoming serious can be a habit forming approach to life and overtime can cause depression, isolation, hopelessness and increased anxiety. The flip side of worrying too much allows you to enjoy life more and be more fulfilled, laugh more often, connect with yourself and others on a deeper level and tune into to more significance and beauty in the world.

Changing your outlook

It is possible to change your outlook and exchange a serious perspective for a lighter outlook. Whilst some people may be more predisposed to a grave view on life it is still possible to actively choose behaviours and actions that will support you to relax and trust in life once again.

Thought patterns

An obvious starting point is to become aware of where you put your attention. Notice the thought patterns that you commonly have, the way you contribute to conversations and the sort of information that you gravitate towards. If you can see that you have a tendency to focus on stories or ideas that feed feelings of overwhelm and despair make a decision to take step that will start feeding the opposite emotions.

Limit how much you expose yourself to doom and gloom news stories and find alternative forms of information that are inspiring and optimistic instead. Find a simple form of meditation that will support you to become freer in your thinking and more able to let go of unhelpful trains of though.

Attitude of gratitude

being less seriousDevelop a practice of noticing at least three things a day in your life that you appreciate or are grateful for, such as having running water, enough food or a comfy bed. As you build on these overtime your inner voice will switch towards a ‘what is going right for me’ rather than ‘what is going wrong’.
Another key area to shift is any tendency towards perfection! This is always out of reach and leads us again down the path of not good enough, must do better. Find humour in your flaws! Learn to laugh at them and forgive yourself in the process. See life as a journey rather than a destination and stop focusing on where you are going and instead find ways of enjoying being where you are. Remember that it’s OK to relax as nothing is under control!

Find a balance

Watch for a balance of self-improvement and self-acceptance. Meditation, exercise and healthy eating are all great but anything can become a chore and a way of berating yourself if left unchecked. Surround yourself with people and activities that you enjoy and that inspire you. Remember you are not here just for the benefit of others, you can choose who to spend your time with and what conversations etc to engage with – this is your life! Balance is key so let yourself enjoy times of really kicking back and even slobbing out!
Reframe life in your mind as one big play – remember Shakespeare said ‘all the worlds a stage’ so enjoy playing your part, forgive yourself for minor hitches and when things go seriously squewed, see if you can just shout ‘plot change’ and go with it!

 

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About Jenny Smith

About Jenny Smith

Jenny Smith is a freelance writer and facilitator specialising in mental health, well-being and ecotherapy. She writes for National Mind and The Working Parent and facilitates training in the Work that Reconnects and Ecotherapy. She is inspired by nature, gardening, love and non-duality teachings

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