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Making new friends

Making new friends

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True friends are special. They make you laugh, understand where you’re coming from and are always there for you. However, friendships often change over time and if you’ve moved to a different area or feel you’ve grown apart from your old mates then making new friends can seem like a bit of a challenge.

While kids seem to make friends with relative ease, adults can find it a bit more difficult. After all, we don’t have the same routine of school, clubs and going out to play and so meeting new people can be tricky. And that’s even before you connect with people and put in the effort required to form a close bond.

Meeting people

You’re never going to meet new people if you don’t get out there. Accept invitations from work colleagues, learn a new skill at an evening class, join a gym class or sports club or start volunteering for a good cause. Basically do anything you think you’ll enjoy in a place where you are likely to meet like-minded people.

Developing friendships

Once you’ve met people that you like and want to get to know better you’ll aim to turn their acquaintance into a friendship. Acquaintances are people who you chat to and can have a laugh with but they lack the intimacy that comes with friendship. Creating intimacy can be relatively simple. Opening up to a person about your feelings or goals will let the other person know you trust them. In turn, they should begin to trust you and your conversations will become more personal.

Time and effort

Making new friendsFriendships don’t happen overnight. They take time and effort to develop and grow. Ensure you make time for your new friends and make the effort to listen to what they have to say and support them. If you’ve been feeling lonely it can be easy to overwhelm new friends but it’s important to give them space to do their own thing so you don’t come across as being clingy or needy.

Social media

The internet can be a great way to meet new people or reconnect with old friends. However, it isn’t the same as having friends ‘in real life’. Get together for a coffee with people you’ve met online and form offline relationships. Online friends have their place, but generally that’s not by your side when you’re going through a really tough time or in the pub downing Prosecco with you when you have something to celebrate.


As well as sharing in your successes and cheering you up when you’re down, good friends are known to provide health benefits. People with strong friendships are likely to live longer while living in solitude can be as harmful to health as smoking or drinking too much. So even if you’re an introvert and talking to people you don’t know well seems almost impossible, it is totally worthwhile in the long run and you’re never going to regret forming bonds with people who will stick by you.





About Maria Brett

About Maria Brett

Maria is a freelance writer with over 10 years' experience producing content for a variety of publications and websites. When not working or looking after her two gorgeous sons, she can usually be found playing flugelhorn in a brass band, helping out at her local hospital radio station, shouting at the television while watching Formula 1, at the cinema or plonked on the couch with a cold glass of wine.

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